We’ve all be there, getting rejected for a job you thought you were going to get. Argh!….Gut wrenching if not soul crushing. It’s debilitating to say the least.

I got this friend, right off campus with a Bachelor’s Degree in BIT from one of the local universities. “I am excited about this job offer, went for an interview and everything. I can feel it, they will be calling me for with a job offer in no time.”

Sounds like most of us when we get to the interview stage. When the interview is over and somehow things seem to have gone the right way, most of us assume that the next step is getting a call from the HR. It’s okay to be optimistic, have your hopes high. On the flip side, you’ve got to be prepared for the worst, which in this case,  is not getting the job.

So, how do you handle the rejection without spiraling into some depression or going in some drinking spree…which only makes the matters worse? Here are some HR tips to help you out.

1. Start with a “thank you” note.
You are thinking, a thank you note? Are you kidding me? After getting rejected? You sure about that?

HR professionals encourage that despite the fact that you didn’t get the job, the hiring manager/employer did save some time and resources into your candidacy—whether it was just in reviewing your CV’s and inviting you for an interview. Be a professional and don’t let your emotions get the best of you. Start your response off with something like, “Thank you for letting me know, and for the interview opportunity.” This goes a long way when it comes to bolstering your reputation. And who knows, they might just remember you when a new vacant position comes up.

2. Keep Your Emotions in Check
Your emotions will get the best of you especially if you thought you had that particular job bagged down…then next thing you will do is maybe call someone, your friend, your sister and what’s the agenda of this meeting or call?

To let some steam off, or to cool off. , “You won’t believe the sort of nonsensical questions they had me answering on the interview I attended last week ,” or worse, “That company is going nowhere, I can’t believe I applied for a job with them…” on and on and on you will rant. Justified, maybe….

I get that you might want to vent about your disappointment, but resist the temptation to talk poorly about that employer or the hiring manager. As they say, wall have ears and you never know who in your network is connected or how the things you say might make it back to the wrong person.

3. Stay Positive
Here is the thing, getting hit with a job rejection can be a mood zapper and can do damage to your self-esteem. You need to understand that you aren’t alone. You have to understand that this has happened to more people than you think. Once you accept that, you can focus on the next opportunity.

to get through this, You need to realize that getting a job depends on a load of factors other than your cool personality and the smarts. Some other candidate may be better qualified or well-connected than you, hence, the decision to pick someone else instead of you is not necessarily a choice against you.

While it might be a cliché but you know what they say about clichés…The best way to deal with rejections is to keep a smile on your face. Turn each rejection into a learning opportunity and stay focused on your ultimate goal. Soon enough, if you polish up on your interview and improve on your networking skills, you and a great job are finally going to get matched.